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Every different country
has their own customs and traditions, which must be observed and
respected particularly by tourists who would not wish to be thought of
as “rude.” Here are a few guidelines to follow when visiting Indonesia:
Greetings
1. The Indonesian culture is based on honor and respect for the
individual. Letters begin with "Dengan Hormat", "with respect".
Respect should always be remembered when greeting others.
2. Men and women usually shake hands and bow the head slightly when
introduced for the first time.
3. Indonesians shake hands when congratulating someone or saying goodbye
before a long trip.
4. When one is introduced to older people, a slight bow is appropriate.
5. Unless his own wife or fiancé, a man does not touch a woman in
public, except to shake hands, even if he knows her well.
6. If a person has a prestigious title such as doctor or professor, it
should be used in conversation.
Conversation
Conversational subjects which should be avoided in polite company:
1. Talking about sex in public is very inappropriate.
2. Disparaging religions and ethnic origins are not acceptable.
3. Asking someone's income and wealth is inappropriate.
4. Criticism should be avoided. If it must be given, it should be well
disguised and very subtle. Criticism is never directed at the individual
personally. It is never delivered in public or with an audience.
5. Discretion is a virtue.
6. Speak softly. Loud voices are impolite.
Public Manners
1. Kissing in public is inappropriate.
2. When traveling, a person is expected to give his or her seat to the
elderly, and men are expected to give their seats to women.
3. Shoes should be removed before entering carpeted rooms, feasting
places, places of funeral viewing, or holy places, especially mosques.
4. Gestures are not used for calling someone, except to a child. Waving
one's hand with the palm facing down signals another person to come.
5. The left hand should not be used to shake hands, touch others, point,
eat food, or give or receive objects.
6. Standing with hands in pocket or on hips is interpreted as defiance
or arrogance and should be avoided.
7. Sunglasses should be removed when speaking to someone or when
entering a home.
8. Feet should never be used as pointers, and should stay off desks and
tables.
9. Yawning in public should be avoided, but if one must yawn or cough a
hand should be placed over the mouth. Eating while standing or walking
is inappropriate.
Dress and
Clothing
1. Public dress is left up to the individual, provided it is modest.
Some Indonesians are conservative dressers and slow to accept new
styles.
2. Shorts, tank tops, and the like are not considered appropriate,
except for picnic and similar occasions.
3. In the cities, people wear casual dress, and most of the people
accept a new style of dress.
4. A shirt and tie are appropriate for males in most business occasions.
5. When invited to a dinner in private homes, people can wear informal
or casual dress, most Indonesians wear traditional batik dress.
6. Formal wear should be worn if it is specified by the invitation.
7. In theatres, restaurants and operas, informal and casual wear are
appropriate.
Table Manners
1. Many westernized Indonesians eat with a spoon and fork, but more
traditional families eat with their hands. If one is not offered eating
utensils, it is appropriate to ask for a spoon and a fork (usually
dinner knives are not used). Generally the fork used in the left hand
and the spoon in the right.
2. It is impolite to eat or drink before invited to do so by one's host.
3. Both hands are kept on the table while eating.
4. Hostesses appreciate compliments on the food, but humorous remarks
about the food are a serious breach of etiquette.
5. Paying for a meal is done by the one who issued the invitation to
eat. Going "Dutch" is not common and considered poor form.
6. After the meal you should thank the host and the hostess, and the
guests are not expected to help clear the dirty dishes from the table.
Gifts
1. Gift are generally not expected by traditional Indonesians. Gifts
should be accepted graciously, it is impolite to refuse anything.
2. Indonesians do not generally open gifts in the presence of the giver.
3. When invited to a dinner, flowers are considered appropriate gifts.
4. When staying as a guest in a private home, you can bring a small gift
that is typical of your country. Cookies, candies, fruits, flowers, etc
are also okay.
5. Business gifts are not necessary, but sometimes are appreciated. The
appropriate gifts for business are small items such as pens, watches,
shirts, ties, ladies’ purses, etc.
Private Homes
1. Traditional visiting times are Saturday evening and Sunday afternoon.
2. In Indonesia, guests are welcomed very warmly and it is an honor for
them if you can stay with them. Hosts mostly will serve drinks and
foods, but one should not drink or eat until invited, and it is also
impolite to refuse the drink and food that has been served for you.
3. It is polite but not necessary to remove one's shoes if the hostess
is not wearing footwear.
4. It is polite but not necessary to offer your help to do household
chores, because most of the middle class people in Indonesia have paid
househelp.
5. Wear something decent if you are not in your bedroom. It is necessary
to make a conversation to the hostess, do not lock yourself in the
bedroom.
6. If it is time to go to bed, it is necessary to say good night to the
host.
7. Do not over sleep, most of Indonesians prepare breakfast for the
guests and expect to have breakfast together.
8. It is necessary to tell the host, whenever you go out
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